Moving Around

Moving Around

taxesWith the success of my appliance repair business we were able to move around.  Chloe was still young so we couldn’t do anything exotic, but we sure wanted to get out of Connecticut.  Getting out of CT was the best way to go because the taxes up there were very high.  Business was great, as I mentioned in my last post, and my appliance repair business was completely mobile.  I was able to keep a high income without actually being on the job.

Given the fact that I’ve created a business already it was time to start another one.  I decided to start the San Marcos Plumbing and Drain Service which was based out of San Marcos, Texas.  We had a wide variety of solutions for every plumbing need.  Due to the fact that the taxes in San Marcos were half that off Connecticut, it was a really great choice.


Pros & Cons of Moving Around

There are many pros & cons of moving around the country, and my wife was very audible when discussing her objections.

The Pros of Moving throughout the Country

  1. Traveling is great for the mind, body & soul
  2. Getting to meet new people
  3. Enjoying new experiences is important
  4. Getting to eat new, and interesting foods
  5. Tons of Networking Opportunities

The Cons of Moving throughout the Country

  1. Adjusting to new locations constantly can be difficult
  2. Hard to make long term friends
  3. Expensive to live in & out of hotels & motels
  4. Weight Gain because you just want to eat everything!
  5. No real place to call home

Looking Back at our Adventures

If we had to do it all again, we would.  Enjoying all different kinds of food was totally worth the extra few pounds that we found hanging around the midsection.  Being able to meet new people, and get those new network contacts was worth far more than the friendships that we had strained while traveling.  In fact we’re even better with people that we met during our travel adventures.  I personally liked San Marcos the best, but my wife enjoyed the northern states.  She is one of those people who sweats profusely, and needs that cold weather.  Gary says travel while you can. 

Turning it up

Turning it up a Notch!

After about 3 months of little Chloe being born my schedule became easier.  I noticed that I was getting a lot more done in the short amount of time I had.  I was getting so much more done in that short time than I ever did prior to.  I talked to my wife, who was returning to work in a months time, and asked her if she truly wanted to go back.  Her eyes filled with tears, and she asked…  Do you think we are stable enough financially for me not to work?

I explained to her how I was able to get so much more done with limited time, and that I had a bright idea.  She asked to hear about my bright idea, and explained she always dreamed about not having to go back to work.  She said she would love not to go back, but didn’t want to put that pressure on me.

My Bright Idea

A business that runs itself.  I told her that I wanted to start an appliance repair business from home, and hire guys to take care of the calls.  I would manage it by myself, and she would take of the answering of phones.  She jumped up, and said “YESSS! – When do we start?”.

I said…  We already did.  The week beforehand I recorded this video which had already been circling the web.

After Turning it a Notch

After I turned it up a notch and started my own company everything changed.  My wife was happier, our baby girl was happier, and life was better.  It was amazing what having my wife at home did for our family.  My advice to young fathers is to do whatever you need to do to allow your wife to stay at home.

Getting Work Done & Being a Good Parent

Getting Work Done & Being a Good Parent

These two things are very hard to get done.  I can vividly remember the 3 times my dad played football with my brother and I.  I can count on my fingers how many times my dad took us out on a weekday to have fun.  My mother was fortunate enough to have the financial stability that my father provided to be a stay at home mom.  I talked in my last post about BEAST MODE which is that second wind you get when you have someone to provide for besides just yourself.

This post is about balance.  When my daughter was born I had a really tough time balancing the time I spent working with my Tree Service and the time I spent with the time little girl.  I’d get home at about 3:00pm, and want to immediately start answering emails, returning phone calls and updating my blog.  Newsflash – I have a emotionally unstable wife, a crying baby, and a house that’s a complete mess.  I chuckle to myself as I write this because those are the stone cold facts.

The Schedule

The way I got past my crazy wife, crying baby and messy house while still being able to run my Tree Service the best I could was getting a solid schedule going.  I no longer had excess time to send a few emails, surf Facebook, watch a few funny videos and then write my blog.  I had the BEAST MODE energy, but needed to develop the work ethic.

My schedule for those days home is as follows:

3:00 – 3:30 30 minutes of house work immediately

3:30 – 4:15 the wife gets a break, and I get baby time

4:15 – 5:15 1 hour block to get my blog done

5:15 – 6:15 Phone calls

6:15 – 6:45 Dinner

6:45 – 7:45 Wife & I time (if baby was asleep)

7:45 – 8:30 Emails & Start the blog for the next day

facebookThe schedule doesn’t always work, so instead of using that last 15 minutes to surf Facebook I make sure to spend it on the blog for the next day.  I’ll need at least 1-2 extra blogs each week because sometimes my wife would be in a rut or our baby girl just wouldn’t stop crying.  Things get crazy when you have a newborn at home.  I wanted to make sure that I cut out some time to spend with my daughter, and watch her grow up.  Weekends are rough for me because I really double down on the weekends and get a ton of work done.  I don’t go out with my wife to friend’s houses or anything.  I stay at home and hit the blog & emailing hard or I’m out working.

Those days working hard really paid off.  I’m glad that I got a schedule that worked for me, and stuck with it.  Gary says get a schedule, and stick to it. 


Pregnancy & The Wife

Pregnancy & The Wife

My lovely wife was a absolute train wreck during our Pregnancy.  Notice I said our, because I was pregnant too.  I was holding in all the comments, anger, and remarks that I wish I could say.  My wife was utterly obsessed with her book/website/phone app “What to Expect, When your Expecting“.  Everyday, she would complain that she isn’t doing this, or she isn’t doing that.   That was one of the hardest part of having a baby.  Managing my wife.

Managing my wife was the hardest part, and still is.  Even after having our little baby girl, the best thing that ever happened to us, my wife’s hormones only got more intense.  I want you to think of the worst PMS experience you’ve ever encountered with a woman, and 10X it.

Worst PMS Experience X 10 = Every Night After Giving Birth

You’d think since your child is finally here; things at home would be back to normal.  My wife would cry, cry, and cry – about every little thing.  About our finances, because I was working two small businesses myself at the time.  It was hard juggling two small businesses, and my crazy wife.  On top of all that I wanted to make sure my little girl got the attention she needed.  I can tell you that it hasn’t been easy.  Being a parent is no walk in the park.

Beast Mode

Beast ModeI’m sure you’ve seen some video that’s all about BEAST MODE where a linebacker completely demolishes like 7 guys or some trashy world star moment where one dude takes down like 4 guys in a bar fight.  The beast mode I’m talking about it a lot different.  I can tell you from personal experience that you get this second wind when you’re up late working hard.  When your completely drained, and your eyes start to close, but you know you need to finish the work that’s on your plate.  You now have a reason that’s bigger than yourself, or the new fancy car that you want to buy.  That reason is your child that you must now provide for.

Call “it fight or flight mode”, or just call it beast mode, but its a completely different way of doing things.  When I first had my daughter I was no longer scared to cold call businesses, or walk in the front door and pitch them.  It was a completely new me.  I immediately started spending more money on self-investment to make myself better.  You’ll feel the same feeling of BEAST MODE when you have your first child, and hopefully you’ll think of me.  Gary says go Beast Mode or Go Home.


It’s REALLY Happening

The Baby is Here!!

What a magical time it was being called into the hospital for a vitals check, and getting the words “we’re going to get you a room”.  It was an amazing 9 months with my wife, because we were just so god damn excited to have a baby.  My wife decided that we were going to wait to find out what it was.  She knows me too well so in order to keep me from finding out on my own, she Our first babyscheduled the wellness visits when I wasn’t working.  She’s a smart lady, that wife of mine!

We got to our room, and found out that we needed to be induced because the fluid was low.  I figured that’d be a quick turn around.  I figured it’d be like being at a Subway restaurant with no one in front of you.  Instead it was like the opening doors of a heavily metal concert that weren’t even going to open for the next 30 minutes.  For the first two days we really just hung out there.  My wife and I both agreed that just sitting there watching whatever on TV was just like a bad vacation.

Sure enough 3:00 AM that night my wife woke me up, and said it was starting to hurt.  I asked her if she wouldn’t mind letting me get another hour of sleep.  She wasn’t too big a fan of my question, and called the nurses to come in to handle the child birthing.

Should I look?

My guy friends got really mad at me because I’d always ask them if they looked.  Did they dare gaze into the stretched vaginal they used to make love to?  Things got awkward really quick when I asked that question.  Some people would be like hell no, and others would say that they looked.  I looked, and it was amazing.  The little hair on the head that was poking out was nothing I’ll ever forget.  My wife kept screaming at the nurses to pull it out of her.  I wasn’t about to get into that mess.  My job was holding hands, and not passing out.  I don’t tend to do well around blood.

Despite my issues with blood, and the thought of being disgusted I decided to look.  It was an emotional experience seeing that little baby for the first time.  The doctors had my wife push it half way out, and then pull it out by herself.  Seeing my wife pull a kid out of her was a freaky situation.  Regardless, I’d highly recommend to husbands who are sealing the knot to keep it in the back of your mind that Gary said to look.